Wednesday, October 29, 2008

She's Ready for a dad maybe

Well we all know I am a single mom. I have always been a single mom so Jasen has never known her "dad" if you want to call him that.
She has never shown much interest in knowing about her dad either even though I always knew the day would come when she would ask valid questions and expect mom to have an answer.
That day came last night.At bed time.
Our nightly routine is as follows:
1. Supper
2. Bathtub and Jammers
3. Quality time with mom and Jaden until around 6:30pm
4. Then to the bed
5. Read some books and make up stories about Jaden and her cousin Joei going on crazy adventures.
6. Prayers
7. We talk about one real good thing that happened that day and usually end up talking about all sorts of things that only a three year old could have on her mind.

then its lights out hugs and kisses and to bed.
Well last night after all is said and done I hear her Little voice say " mom whats your daddy's name?"
After some delay in my thought process I answer..."uh his name is Jimmy." Then I regret my answer. I have always thought about the odd conversations to face but when the moment comes you just have to speak from the heart I guess.

So she said " where is he?" I said " he lives far away. I don't know him."
I explained that not all people are nice and sometimes people make bad choices and it gets them in lots of trouble or can change their path.(she is familiar with Paths as its a lesson she learned from a Land Before Time movie.)
She was with me on that one there, she said " oh, he made mistakes and made bad choices and now hes in trouble. He should listen to people he wont get into bad choices.He is sad now."

Anyhow enough drama. So, Jaden says " you are like me mom I don't have dad either its okay.We have Uncle and he can wrestle us and tickle us."
Then a pause and she snuggled me and said " But mom, I think I might be ready for a daddy maybe."
I said, "me too."
Then she prayed "God please bless my daddy and gives us a dady that can play with me and throw me in the air and chase those dinosaurs away. And we can have breakfast and watch kewlopolis"
Ofcousre I am all teary eyed and we say amen.

Just had to share the qualities Jaden looks for in a dad. I always find it a little funny when we talk about this stuff because I don't care who you are, you never remember the well spoken speech you practice before hand!

1 comment:

Jennifer said...

ohhhhhhhhhhh that just guts me. Little bug needs a dad. Hey, lets get you on a reality show. That's the ticket. I wish everyone could hear Jadens voice though, cuz that makes everything she says that much more enjoyable.